There are things people will tell you when you are having a baby…
It’s the best thing that will ever happen to you.
Your sleeping patterns will change.
You will be a wonderful mother.
All true, and everybody and their mother will be fawning over you and your child giving you advice. However, there are a few things people probably haven’t told you. And that’s where we come in.
Here’s a list of things you may not have heard before.
- Complete strangers will come up to you in supermarkets and on the high street, desperate to have a peek at your baby. Then they will completely ignore you, no matter how much of a rush you are in, while they peekaboo with your child. Who are these people? We don’t know, but don’t be surprised when they crawl out of the proverbial woodwork.
- Money will be in tight supply as your shopping list grows, from baby clothes to milk formulas. The weird thing is, you won’t mind. You want the best for your child, and even if your baby’s wardrobe becomes fuller than yours, you will always find something else to buy for them. That cash advance has never been so helpful.
- Google will become your best friend. Every cough, sneeze, or splutter your child makes, will drive you to the internet to find out what’s wrong. You may not have worried about your health in such a way, but when it’s your child, your anxiety level will hit the roof.
- You will feel lonely. Yes, there will be times when you have loads of company, from friends and family to those complete strangers we mentioned earlier. But when your partner has gone to work, your loved ones are busy elsewhere, and you’re left alone to care for your baby, you will feel isolated. While you will have your baby for company, there will be times when you long for adult conversation that goes beyond the words goo and gaa!
- You will cry. We aren’t just talking about postnatal depression, which is completely normal. But there are times when you will cry for any number of reasons. Your child won’t stop crying and you will weep in frustration. Your child looks at you with loving eyes and you cry as your heart melts. Your child drops yet another number two into the nappy and you will cry because…okay, maybe that’s just your eyes watering at the smell. Sorry.
- You will argue with your partner. “It’s your turn to change the nappy.” “It’s your turn to get out of bed.” “It’s your turn to cook the tea.” You will be tired, tensions will be fraught, and your partner will get the brunt of it. And vice versa. You love each other, and your baby is a joy for you both, but there will be times when you hit breaking point. Hint: Get a babysitter and spend time with your partner away from baby occasionally.
- You will miss the way life used to be.. when you could follow your own sleeping pattern, when you had time to spend with your mates, when you could fit into that dress you had recently bought. Life will change, but as soon as you get down thinking about it, you will look into your baby’s eyes and all those silly cares will fade away. Having a baby is totally worth it!